Recently I attended a class on Solutions Focus Therapy which I really enjoyed and will be looking into more. It is a type of talking therapy that focuses on what the client wants to achieve through therapy rather than the problem that made them seek help. Obviously based on the title, it does not focus on the past but focuses on the present and future. The counselor uses questions to encourage the client with their hopeful future. Then therapist and client start taking steps in that direction, small or large. Through these series of questions, resources and strengths are discovered and built upon.
The following scripture from Proverbs 19:11 relates to this process:
A man’s wisdom gives him patience, it is to his glory to overlook an offense
Some examples of “problem talk” are:
What’s wrong with you?
What’s your problem?
Whose fault is it?
What are the other things that make it hard?
How do you feel when he treated you that way?
Some examples of ‘solutions talk” are:
What do you want to achieve?
What do you want to see happening?
What’s the first sign that tells you that you’re getting better?
I loved the following quote and had to show it to my husband, who is excellent at remembering every tiny fact 😉
All the facts belong only to the problem, not its solution. ~Ludwig Wittgenstein
It seems simple but does take a change in thinking. It’s finding what works and doing more of it. Finding out what doesn’t work and doing something different. Find the resources and build on successes.
A couple of books were recommended and I am currently waiting for them in the mail. Can’t wait to read more about this!
“Interviewing for Solutions” by Peter de Jonge, Insoo Kim Berg
“Brief Coaching for Lasting Solutions” by Insoo Kim Berg, Peter Szabo.